So, I think there is something to be said about the natural behaviors of children in their early years. Some folks pride themselves with their multitasking skills, and I wonder sometimes how they’re able to navigate everything without losing track of something. I do wonder at times if humanity is meant to process all that they do. But, when you think of a child and how much they absorb in their early years, I tend to wonder if it’s just a bad thing to allow them to absorb too much at once. I wonder at times if ADD and ADHD do find their roots during times when a child at the start of his life is doing things like watching TV and using a tablet at the same time. My little padawan asked to watch his favorite TV show this morning. So, I turned it on for him. I decided to take his tablet to play with one of his apps, since you would think he’d be occupied with his TV show. But, his sense of possession required that he get up and pull the tablet from my hands. I continued to explain to him that he was already watching his show. So he took the tablet anyway and started playing. So, it was only natural to turn off the TV so he can focus on one thing, right? Nope. Immediately after turning off the TV he exclaims “No! I wanna watch that!” I’m not playing this game. So it was down to setting him straight and telling him that he can only do one at a time, that it was a waste of resources, etc, etc. There’s no talking to a 2.5 year old child, though. He’s got his own wiles, but I wonder what I can do now to influence his attention span. To be continued…
This article has given me some answers today. It’s perfect. 28 Rules for Fathers of Sons.
So, it looks like my two year old padawan has gone down the path of everything cars and trucks when it comes to his toys. I suppose it isn’t helping that I like picking up for him those 1/38 scale Kinsmart diecast cars that they sell at grocery stores. He has this amazing ability to associate car emblems with their respective car owners, so although a black Subaru sedan toy car is not necessarily representing my wife’s black Subaru SUV, little Tywalker will still refer to it as “Mama’s Car” because it has a Subaru emblem on it. Smart kid! Have you ever watched a child place his eyes down to the ant view and observe his little toy car moving into a parking space? I should take a photo of that and post it. But, that’s all from observation of the real thing, and it’s amazing to see a child’s fascination in this kind of stuff. Of course, on the flipside, I wonder if this fascination will ultimately lead to him being a gear head or a race boy (hopefully not a rice boy) in the future. I like to fast forward in my head about an older Tywalker asking to borrow the car and joy riding to meet up with his pals. Do I support this affinity now, or pay for it later? 🙂 We could always divert his attention from the cars and go with counting numbers or playing catch (still not successful there…to be continued on that one). Even handing him a smartphone device, he’ll find the car related apps anyway! But, hey. While he’s learning things like saying “No” every hour, at least he can find joy in the little four wheeler deals. Just thought I’d share.
For those of you parents out there who recognize that chasing time is such a real thing when it comes to having a newborn, you can understand my lack of updates here. Outside of that though, I’m here to talk about my Tywalker‘s latest feats of skill and padawan learning!
Three months has passed and our little boy has grown six pounds since being born. I get the usual comments like “What are you feeding him?” or “Wow, he’s grown!”. I like to compare him to a twelve pound sack of rice. Try carrying one of those over your shoulder for long periods of time! Guess I really need to get some regular updates for workouts on this blog then, huh!
The most rewarding moments are just recently. The experts say that babies recognize their parents from the beginning, but they only really process and sort out who is who from all of the people carrying them and speaking goo goo ga ga in front of their faces. But this is the time that little Tyler can recognize that his parents are the ones that he craves the most time from. It’s true! Spot a newborn as their parent walks into the room, and you can almost sense they can smell Mommy and Daddy as they walk in. He can certainly discern my voice or my wife’s voice. Somewhere between two to three months, he was tracking our movements as well and I’m tellin’ ya this little boy can turn folks into butter with his eyes and winning smile. My wife is all goo when it happens. I got a good video on Facebook of him holding up his head too. He’s getting stronger in that department. He can kick against the crib rails pretty well too. We think he’s inherited his mommy’s kung-fu genes. One thing physically has shown clear this past month. Tyler is looking quite like a chip off the old block. To say he’s a “mini-me” is saying it mildly. We’ve been able to find old photos from my baby photo albums and find that we could’ve seriously passed for twins. Awesome! He’s also achieved a winning milestone in my book.
Anyway, it’s good to be in the swing of it. I’m sure this parenting rollercoaster is just starting. I’m amazed that this little boy can sleep through about 5 to 6 hours straight at night. It was crazy having those late night marathons waking up for feedings, diaper changes, and such. No other parents really tell new parents that you have to prepare for this newborn “marathon” and boy it feels like a triathalon at times!
But, I’ll tell ya. I’m in for the ride and so far it’s been quite rewarding just to see him grow bigger and stronger, and hopefully smarter… and I think he’s trying to outsmart his own parents already. Good luck, my lil’ buddy boy.
The padawan has a name. Tyler. Traditional meaning of Tyler is one who tiles or makes tiles. For me that could mean several things. By trade he may very well do flooring. But if you see how tiles are placed, there is a certain method or pattern and it takes a watchful eye to tile. Tiles could represent the very pixels on a graphic, the textiles on a fabric, and both hold true of his two parents and their trades. One can also reference some of our favorite Tylers. Tyler Florence (my wife’s Food Network crush). Tyler Perry (the maker of some of my wife’s favorite movies). Tyler Durden (the crazed but tough character from Fight Club). There are some greats named Ty as well. But our very own Tyler is a 7 week old joy and he’s destined for great things. (I got future Tywalker and Ty-Fighter posts in mind for Project Padawan). I’ll tell you what though. His name suited my boy from day one and I can’t see any other for him, so for the only name that my wife and I agreed on for a boy, we named him as such. More about our boy and the latest in these chronicles soon.
A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away (six years ago on this day in fact!)… an uber-geeky Jedi time chaser met a beautiful pastry-loving princess in the galaxy’s foremost factory of cheesecake. With little more than three years of aggressive negotiations they joined together as Mr. & Mrs., building an empire of marriage to span a Chicago west suburbia. Now, the two of them get ready to introduce new padawan, Bun-In D’Oven, to a brand new universe…
The 12 week check is good, announcements are out, and there’s a lot of excitement around the family and amongst friends. It’s a great time to consider the life changing new project that I’m on. The Baby Project! And, as some of my co-workers mentioned, I’ll have to set some solid milestone dates to insure a successful delivery! Well, since I haven’t written through the first trimester, those who have children already know the challenges from that first few weeks of pregnancy, but my wife pulled through like a champ and we are excited! Some simple words just can’t describe the feelings a future-daddy has in seeing the image of his tiny child for the first time and seeing his/her thumping heart light. That was the moment some weeks ago when it was all definitely real. Priorities have changed. The game of life has shifted for the best ride ever! My wife and I are witnessing the miracle of creation and building on our family! What an absolute blessing that is! And yesterday our little jumping java bean is making good progress, so we were happy to finally share the news with the family and all you folks! We’ll be talking to you soon. Right now, we’re enjoying the first part of this roller coaster ride! See you next episode…